"Don't give a damn care whether people stare at you or not, because if you are a celebrity I think they should see you." -Er. Sujit Lalwani Sir
This is the best line that has been quoted by Er. Sujit Lalwani Sir when it comes to talking about the ever dangerous disease i.e. “What will they think about me?” According to me this disease is much more dangerous than the AIDS, cancer, tuberculosis or I can mention even the swine flu… ;-). Most of us have this problem which probably will be unknowingly the biggest reason why we don’t succeed in what we want to actually achieve in life. This applies to me also. Even I face this problem quite a number of times. I haven’t got over this so called “disease” but yes, I am working on it.
Oh my God it’s been a very tough thing to overcome. I was a person who used look left-right-up-down-front-back whenever I was supposed to do something different. I used to always worry “What will people around me think about me?” Such an over cautious girl I was!! Thank God I realized that being over conscious or over cautious brings disaster in life…: D very soon in my earlier days itself. I feel bad that I didn’t realize this still earlier than this.
The point here is that when people make fun of us or people pull our legs we feel very bad. Isn’t it? It hurts us a lot. Somewhere in our hearts we feel a pressure that takes time to come back to normal. But I would say that when people pull our legs, it should be happiest moment of our life. Want to know why? That’s because people who pull our legs are the people who are on our feet. Look where they stand and where we stand. We only have to say to them, “God bless you.”
I can see it in my college itself. The student wants to study. But he/she doesn’t open the book because he/she is worried that his/her friends or classmates will make fun. I would say, at the most those friends will tag the studying boy/girl as a nerd. At the most they will go and say it to everybody in their class. At the most the entire college will come to know that he/she is a nerd. At the most, nothing serious can happen to that boy/girl. It always depends on the way we take the insults. It’s only by the stones thrown at us that we can build walls which will guard us for a life time.
I haven’t mastered over this concept. As I’ve already mentioned that I’m still working on it. I’m writing this only for myself, because I get motivated when I motivate others. This will make me stronger than the person who I was yesterday.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, August 30, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Friday, August 07, 2009
Kids, children and babies... who doesn't love these guys? They make our days.... For me they are my lucky charms. The moment I see an infant I feel that my day is going to be really splendid... and it does…!!
But why are they loved so much? You may say they are innocent. True!!! They are. But what else? I'll tell you..... They don't know jealousy. They don't know to pull other's legs. They don't know how to be cunning. They don't know how to harm others. They are the happiest human beings. They are ever smiling. They are always busy doing some activity. They will go by their conscience.
They DO WHAT THEIR HEART TELLS THEM TO DO. If discouraged from doing so, they start their sirens and alarms by crying, which means they want to still go by what their heart says even if somebody discourages them.
What do we do if we want to try something new and somebody else pulls our legs, discourages us? We back off. We give up then and there. (There are some really strong people who would go by their heart. But let us keep them as exceptions for now.) Agree with me? It is very easy to influence others and still easier to get influenced by others. Leg pulling is common everywhere these days. In high schools, colleges, workplaces etc. We all are bound to be slaves of the negative side of our mind. So it always is a problem to arrive at a proper decision as to whether to do it or not. Mark my words, If the decision is yours and it is helpful to you and if it is morally and legally right then go for it. Don’t think anything more than that.
Oh common isn't it your life after all? Any decision made in your life should be made straight from the heart. (Provided you don't end up doing things that harm others.)
But you may ask me what if your near and dear ones don’t support your decision? I would say, start showing them that you are mature enough to think on your own. Prove them that you are capable of handling responsibilities. Let them see the sparks that come out from you. Take up some initiatives that require a lot of responsibilities. I'm speaking from the point of view of people who still depend on others for making decisions.
Friends you all are grown ups. Come out of your childhood habits. Start thinking independently.
This may contradict the heading above that "Why don't we start thinking like babies?" Here comes the point. Our attitude matters what come may. Building attitudes like children will help us a lot. We will be loved by all if this happens. We will win people's trust also. So friends I would say, keenly observe the habits of the kids around you. We have lots to learn from them......
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, August 02, 2009
I was feeling very low when things didn't happen as I wanted it to be. I really was frustrated. A thought just strikes to me. I didn't want to forget this thought because it really motivated me when I dug deeper into it. I wanted to write this down somewhere and I felt, why not share it with you through a blog.
The thought went like this……
Just imagine you are not a very good cook. But still you tried preparing something. You tasted it and felt that it actually is really good. It tastes more or less the same as the one you had eaten in your favorite restaurant. You share it with your friends and family too. What happens? Everybody says that it’s horrible. They start criticizing you. Your Mom may even scold you for wasting so many ingredients on it.
Some of us might have faced this situation. Not necessarily while cooking, but, may be while you are trying to make somebody happy and something opposite happens. I know some of us will not take it to our hearts or we may not become that serious. But a small spark of sadness might have come to you for at least one second.
The same things happen to God also. You believe, I believe, the entire world believes that God created all of us. When we criticize ourselves, aren’t we criticizing God’s creation? God feels a little bad. I’m not claiming that criticizing yourself is very bad. We have to accept our weaknesses. But the point is, don’t criticize or underestimate yourself when you are really good. Once you hurt God, He will not listen to your prayers until you apologize and promise him that you won’t do it again.
I know this may sound very child like. But just think friends, why do our days go bad when we complain about ourselves or our surroundings? Isn’t it because we are attracting more of negativity while complaining? Hold your thoughts for a while and check what you are thinking. Recall the ways in which you have attracted problems only because of negative thinking.
Friends I would say “FEEL GOOD WHEN THINGS GO WRONG ALSO”. I know this sounds foolish. How can a person stay happy when things go wrong? The answer is that it comes only by practicing. I used to struggle a lot initially. Now, slowly I am getting a hang of it. It's results are visible to me. And I don't need to prove it to people. Trust me my friends. The problem is that we do not try different things, and that's why we miss out gaining certain wonderful moments which we always deserve. This may still sound foolish to some, but I would love to conclude by the saying of an amazing personality who life is a perfect example for everybody out there.
As said by Mr. Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple ( See videos on the side bar ) "STAY HUNGRY STAY FOOLISH....!!!"