Thursday, December 3, 2009

My first shot at 55 fiction

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Thursday, December 03, 2009 10 comments

He was made by heavens for her.

Secretly he fell for her.

She lived in agony waiting for her love to find her. 

Never knew he was already sent to earth.

He reaches to her under the moon lit night. Asks, "Will you be mine?"

She hugs him tightly. Replies, "Yes I will. I'm yours"

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

When in doubt, sing loud

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Wednesday, November 18, 2009 8 comments


* * * * * * * * * * * * It feels good to be back to writing after a lengthy delay of 20 days. I don’t have any reason as to why I didn’t write. Few days back somehow, unexpectedly, I decided to post my pending article. Yes I was and I am not satisfied with what I had posted earlier. Few said “there’s nothing wrong about it…” yet some others sided my thoughts that I could re-write the same. Some others kept quiet. But I’ll go by what my heart says. I’ll keep writing, writing, writing, writing…………………………… until my heart says “I’m happy”. Still if not satisfied, (((((don’t doubt))))), I will write it again. ;) I don’t mind doing it ‘n’ number of times or if this becomes a trend for me either. ;) Nevertheless, when in doubt I’ll re-write. (As once tweeted by ashok567 ;)) Even I’ve to follow what I’ve written. I can’t simply write things or post articles without practicing them myself. ;) The kind of environment that I’m into, I’m bound to give more importance to the values to be learnt than that of bookish education. Technical knowledge is a must; I’m not claiming it’s worthless. But it becomes wisdom if it’s applied somewhere. Wisdom is bearing more gravity than knowledge. So it is natural that wisdom be given a greater priority.

Once you get a hold of your wisdom, your common sense starts working. And once your common sense starts its work you will be surrounded with 10s of 100s of 1000s of questions which may not let you sleep in peace. (((((((I’m not only referring to the “Technical aspect of knowledge-wisdom relation” but I’m also referring to the “Value based knowledge-wisdom as well”. In fact it is the “Value-based education” or in other words “Education of the Heart” is the one that matters to me the most, if you ask me my opinion.)))))))

But most of us in certain aspects get afraid to follow our hearts. This is what even I experience many an instances. I hope I am successful in separating my mind from intervening in what my heart wants to say and I know I will be. It’s only when we think from our minds that we never get to know certain things which we ought to know. We never get what we want because we think from our heads rather listening to our hearts. I too have missed opportunities many an instances. Reason: I didn’t listen to my heart. The wisdom we get from doing what our hearts has to say is tremendous. Its only by wisdom we get doubts. And wiping away these doubts is the key to open up our minds to a more colorful world.

Human relations, values, health, studies, career, wealth and everything in this world are set up on a platform or a strong foundation that bears the entire weight of everything above it. Thus, it is proven that foundation needs to be really strong. Any baseless thing would give no results. No results at all!! If you really are pestered by a doubt or a faintest feeling that things are going cluttered, here you need to stand up and follow what your heart has to tell you. You want to ask someone something? Then ask it. You want to tell someone something? Then tell it. Clarity in what you want is of utmost importance. Know what you really want. Again, here, your heart comes into view. If your mind is surrounded by other people’s minds whose prime purpose is to confuse you, then here is where you need to be smart enough to know what to listen to.

You may remain foolish in front of others when you do what your heart tells you. Some of you may even go against the wishes of the others. But ultimately, the reason why you did it will be the strongest reason you can ever give them. Again, they may agree with you or disagree with your reasons. But in the most genuine situation, I would say, there is no need to give a reason at all. Persons, who can understand you, will definitely get to know the reason by default. Erasing away your doubts need to be given more priority than giving justifications to others. Ask questions, seek answers. Don’t remain quiet just because you take your life for granted, just because somebody laughs at you, just because somebody would fire tantrums on you, just because you’ll remain a fool for a while or just because somebody pulls your legs. Analyze every situation as to why it is happening.

But my sincere advice to you is not to over analyze things because this leads to paralyze of your mind and heart. One may not be able to differentiate between the right and the wrong once you are into the habit of thinking too much also. It happens to me when I usually carry out my studies during a VTU semester exam. My thoughts, my mind and what not get concentrated on one subject due to excessive analyzing and I would not be able to proceed any further. I’m not saying that thinking is bad, but over thinking can be erratic. Little bit of thinking is always advisable. That is not an issue at all.

Hmmm… but I’ve noticed that to some extent I’m, kind of, detouring away from the actual subject of interest. Do I have a doubt here…??? Lolz... No. I know what I’m writing. I don’t know why, but, my thoughts and emotions are pouring out like water this time….. :D :D :D

* * * * * * * * * * * * Coming to exams: Answering an exam can be done in three approaches
1) Copy from your neighbor’s paper (Teachers, please don’t punish me for this)
2) Take micro Xerox (Teachers, please don’t punish me for this as well)
3) Study, study, study, study….. And ask doubts with your friends or teachers or Google it out.

I know I know the third approach is the easiest approach..!! Lolz…:D :D :D This approach is what all nerds like me follow. :P :P :P I would write in a very studious language now. A doubt regarding studies or something close to studies is always welcomed. It does help you in the long run when you encounter, may be, a similar problem. But don’t hesitate to ask questions or clear your queries with the concerned people. You can always approach your lecturers concerned and disturb them with your doubts. ;) ;) ;) What I’m writing about, right at this moment, may be a very silly issue for most of you all, but you’ll never know. By resolving your confusions, you may just score your distinction in your results (especially VTU). Or you may even lose your distinction by just a single “one mark”. You may clear the subject by that “one mark” or you may lose it also. The feeling you get when you lose or gain your distinctions or targets by just one or two marks is XXXXXXXX. I’m really being honest here. For a nerd like me it is quite a big deal :P :P :P (Now don’t grumble at me) I had experienced this in my last semester VTU. I had lost my distinction by 13 marks. (Huge number) But thankfully, because of the revaluation system of VTU, I got my distinction tag back. Now I know where I went wrong and I have assessed it quite a number of times. Nevertheless, I need to hope for the best and be positive in my thinking too. This will help me a lot I know.

A doubt can help a lot I felt. So I thought why not take a trial of digging my thoughts on this. Yes!! Even though I look silent, I do ask a lot of questions “secretly” if I’m not clear with something. The persons who clear my doubts, I know, they can bear with me, since I ask the silliest doubts ever. Don’t be shy people. Nothing can harm you on this. In fact it does not even need any courage to ask doubts.

Any matter, any issue can also be resolved if questions are raised. I hope I’m successful in every way in these last two semesters of my Engineering life. And of course Thanks a lot my lovely and patient readers, for reading through this lengthiest article of mine.

Friday, October 30, 2009


Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Friday, October 30, 2009 7 comments

Dear Friends,

I felt that the new article "When in doubt, sing loud" is a little incomplete. Personally, I'm really not satisfied with what I've written. I was supposed to include many more aspects in the article but it was my mistake that I wrote in a hurry.... :( Hence I would love to re-write the article... with improvements... Hope you all don't mind me doing this... :D :D

Pratiba Bhat

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

When in doubt, sing loud

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Tuesday, October 27, 2009 12 comments

It was funny when someone just asked whether my next article is going to be about time management. I had uploaded a picture of the sand timer during the waiting period. :D :D Pictures could get very misleading…: D But it is quite interesting to mislead people about what my next article is going to be. It is kind of is fun to get unpredictable also….: D: D: D

As of now I feel as though I haven’t written for ages. I guess it is because I had not written anything last week. :D :D :D But I’ll do try my best to convey my thoughts to you all in the best way possible….; D and of course I again thank you all for your good wishes and a special Thank You to all the followers of my blog. It has been a pleasure for my eyes to see the follower count increasing. :D Thank you all.

All of us are made in such a way that we tend to think at situations and apply what our mind or heart says. Every body has a mind that thinks. These thoughts that come to mind create our destiny, as you already know it (if you already have read my previous articles) But we tend to think so much that we generate questions in our minds. It is a natural tendency to generate questions when you think a lot. But it doesn’t end there itself. One needs to clear the doubt he/she is carrying in his/her mind. Doubt is the key to knowledge Nobody gets away without his/her doubts being solved. No doubts solved means you become paralyzed with doubts. It is almost like someone has tied an invisible knot around you.

Who knows? You may discover something new and exciting when you ask questions and clear them. Now don’t tell me that you have an EGO problem. ;D I’ve already mentioned previously in my article. EGO-Eliminating Growth Opportunities. You retard your own growth if you have an EGO problem!!!!!! However silly your doubt may be you have the freedom of clearing it. A person who clears his/her doubts is a fool for five minutes, but a person who never clears his/her doubts remains a fool forever (Sadly :() People may laugh you say?? Then be happy with the fact that you made people laugh. :D It is your question and your mind. You have the freedom to think in whichever way you want. (But, preferably good thoughts… Not the bad ones :D)

Right now I’ll not comment about “those doubts” created between a husband and a wife or any other couple for that matter. That is completely a different issue. A skeptical mind creates doubts between couples. So right now I wouldn’t highlight on that, but, since I’ve already mentioned it I would add that it is the loss of trust that makes a mind skeptical and negative about someone. Probably, even being too possessive also may not be ideal for some.

But in the other lines it is very important that we help our mind invite doubts happily. :D :D Trust me “you will” enjoy it. And believe me, it doesn’t show that you don’t know anything about something, but it shows that you want to learn something and you are having a thirst for more learning. It is a sign of you being very strong :D But this doesn’t mean that you start off from tomorrow onwards saying that you don’t know about anything in this world. :D :D

But I’m happy that I know some people who are down to earth and still ask questions if they don’t know something. Some of my very own classmates for example ;) Very sweet people do exist in this world. I’m happy about that. :D :D :D I doubt, therefore I think; I think therefore I am

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Blog action day

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Thursday, October 15, 2009 4 comments

NATURE is the queen of surprises and wonders. She is so unpredictable that we’ll never know what her plan is for us till she makes it happen in real. Believe you me; the manner in which natural calamities hit us sometimes gives me the creeps. I know I know I shouldn’t be talking negative stuff here, but still, I would stick to what I said just now.

When I hear the word nature a picture of trees, plants, greenery and garden gets registered in my mind. Personally, I love greenery around, especially around my home where I stay. I’m happy that I’ve a small and cute garden in front of my home which I could see and relax whenever I want to. Very small birds that look like butterflies keep visiting my small and cute garden. It gives me a sort of satisfaction to see that these tiny birds take shelter from rains and wind in the plants that I planted long time back. I still remember that I had taken a blasting from my mom for emptying all my pocket money in buying an expensive sapling from the nursery and planting it in the garden. Looking at the sapling she said that it was a big waste and it wouldn’t grow. And she was absolutely right. It never grew for one whole year. After waiting for a year, to everybody’s surprise the same sapling which was very stubborn for one year started growing taller. It grew taller and taller and taller and now it is taller than me… oh it is taller than my father too. My mom was apologetic about what she said initially and now she thanks me for bringing it home. I've uploaded the snap below.

Somewhere these plants, trees etc. are all related to this unpredictable climate change that is happening around everywhere. Take for example, the floods in Karnataka in the recent days which puzzled every person because it was a heavy pour in a region which is usually not blessed by rains. It is sad that everything that used to be green is turning into dust now. I personally feel, the only difference between the good old days and today’s days is that, in the olden days we had green patches everywhere. But now it is the complete reverse. Probably this is the turning point that led to all the problems which were generated as byproducts like green house effect and what not. The root of every problem related to nature is the disappearance of the green.

But in India, we have a wonderful festival called “Vanamahotsava” (“Vana” means forest “Mahotsava= Maha+Utsava” where “Maha” means great or big and “Utsava” means festival). This festival is celebrated for the purpose of planting trees around. But this festival also has lost its charm. Only the enthusiastic people celebrate this festival wholeheartedly. But, imagine the Indian government passes an act saying that, “During Vanamahotsava, every plant that is planted newly will fetch Rupees 100/- to the planter.” Now just think, what might possibly happen? Everybody’s houses would be filled with plants. There would be plants, plants and only plants everywhere. I’m not claiming that government should take this action, but this is how we are. It is only that we need a motivation for even doing a small job of planting.

I had an urge that I should have plants in my garden that would be taller than me. And it did happen. I made it happen. This is my kind of motivation that I have always. I feel happy that in the due course I helped nature improve. A lot of joy will be bubbling within me when I see the regular guests i.e. butterflies, birds using my home’s plants for their activities. I really love it when it happens. A small plot of land that looks ugly, dull and dusty can be made to look beautiful naturally by only making a tree grow on it.

An artist cannot speak about his art any more than a plant can discuss horticulture.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

The problem is not the problem

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, October 04, 2009 5 comments

It has been a good journey for me from the time I’ve started blogging. Friends, I appreciate your responses over comments and mails. This kept and will keep motivating me to pull out thoughts from my mind and write it down on this playground of mine. These are not just theoretical; these are the actual things that I have been working on so that I remember and practice the aspect in which I want to improve myself. That’s because learning will never end even if I would become a granny one day. :D All we have got to do is learn, learn and only learn. We can learn from anything we want. We can learn from our past experiences, our mistakes, our failures. There was a recent turning point in my life where my eyes actually opened up and I realized that I’m not doing anything to improve myself. I realized that I only used to make the mistake of complaining about the things happening around me. 50% of the time my problems would increase only because of the complaining nature I had before. In fact I would create more problems in the process. That is when I decided first to stop complaining about the problems around me.

We all have seen oyster shells that are found in beaches. Haven’t we? Let me talk about the pearl oysters. The outer appearance of a pearl oyster shell or any other oyster, for that matter, looks like an ordinary piece of shell. It may not look appealing for some of you out there. :D But it has its own looks and God has created it in the best way. It has a hard and rough surface with a random color and it is some what shapeless. But, every pearl oyster has the most beautiful jewel in world i.e. the “pearl” inside it. Similarly at this point I would love to quote what Robert Kiyosaki says, the author of the famous best seller, “Rich Dad Poor Dad”, a financial expert, educator and a successful investor. He says, “Inside of every problem lies an opportunity.” I hope you now realized why I took the example of the pearl in the oyster.

“Problems” I was waiting to write a blog on this since it is one of my favorite topics and the most challenging one. But, why are problems born? What creates the problem? How many kinds of problems do we have? What are the different problems that exist? Many questions like these can be raised regarding problems. There are different kinds of problems. But among all the different kinds of problems we have in this world, the mother of all problems (You can call father also) is the “Attitude” problem. This is what makes the difference from one person to another. This is why some people are happy in life and some others are not. This is why some people get what they wish for but some don’t.

As I’ve already mentioned initially that I decided to stop complaining about my problems. But this did not happen overnight. I worked on it really hard. And it became possible for me because I wanted to make my mindset positive. Here comes the attitude. You know, I know, everybody knows that problems pay a visit in everybody’s life. I personally feel that problems are oysters in which there is something precious hidden. When you know that a problem is knocking at your door, you should know that it is an opportunity knocking at your door. Let me give you an example on this. Imagine a couple, i.e. a husband and a wife are facing a serious family problem. Now they can go ahead with the problem in two ways. First way: Both can get frustrated with the problem and keep arguing with each other on every silly reason and throw their angers on each other. Second way: Both can stay calm and cool. Think on how to go about with the problem. You may have noticed that the first way is a negative approach and the second way is a positive approach. The couple will not get anything other than extra frustration by using the first way. But, if they go for the second option, they get an opportunity to get to know each other even more and understand the perception of his/her partner. Even better, their relationship gets stronger. Next time when they face the similar problem, they could catch up with it easily. This is what Robert Kiyosaki means. Thus, even if the problems exist, it is only in the way in which one takes it or faces it.

There are some who have done so many mistakes and haven’t learn t from them. These are the people who face problems constantly and unnecessarily. Yet there are some who face a constant shower of problems, but, still even to this day they have held themselves extremely well. I really want to congratulate such people because they have become an inspiration for me.

The bottom-line is not the problem; it is actually the way one thinks about the problem. The problems we face cannot be solved by thinking in the level in which we created them. We need a totally different mindset while searching the way out of our problems. This has worked not only for me, but for most of the others who have practiced it. I would say, watch the video that I’ve uploaded in the sidebar at least once a week. (The Secret: 20 minutes video) It has a huge impact. I would say the core of everything is only the mind. “It is all in the game of mind.”

Let me tell this to all those who keep complaining about the problems they have. Troubles, hindrances, obstacles and problems are those things that don’t actually last forever unless you make it bigger by frustrating on its arrival. It is hard but not impossible to practice “Non- frustration attitude” when problems are at your feet. But let me tell you that there is the word “possible” hidden within the word “impossible” (IM POSSIBLE). The problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude about the problem.

So as humans we have different sorts of troubles that may be shot on us by God. But it is only up to us to understand why God does it, because stars are seen only at night.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

A Parent's love is whole......

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, September 27, 2009 7 comments

Nature always has a stiff rule. Let it be any creature in this world, everything is a creation, be it insects, animals, plants, even microscopic organisms are a part of this universe. All are interrelated to each other, whether directly or indirectly.

We human beings also are a creation. Let me talk only about human beings since we all are. Nature’s rule says that nobody is born orphan. It is only through circumstances and situations that make the child an orphan. We all were new to this world some years back and now we are here. We all are here only because of one sole reason i.e. our Parents, whether you agree or disagree. If you disagree, then let me remind you that you learn t to walk only because of your Parents. You would not have been able to walk and sit in front of your personal computer and read this article if your Parents were not there in your life. (Let me make this very clear that Parents need not be “biological parents” always, but, even Guardians who take or took care of you could also play the role of Parents)

According to my thinking, God’s best creations are two in number. One is of course a baby, and the other one is a Parent. There is no doubt that Parents love their children more than themselves. This we can see amongst each and every animal in this universe. I always tell myself that there is no word, even in the best dictionary that can best describe the love, care, affection, concern that we get from Parents. And I don’t think it is possible also. The love that they give us is so abundant that, we, as their children can’t figure out what to do in order to return to them for whatever they have done to us. This is natural everywhere. No matter how much we try to give them back, I don’t think seven or more lives are also enough for balancing things with whatever Parents give us. Nobody can clear the debt of his Parents love. A Parent's love is whole no matter how many times divided.

But this doesn’t mean that one should stop loving and caring for his/her Parents. Love towards parents has to be unconditional. But sometimes we take our Parents for granted. We never even bother to peep into their hearts and feel what they are feeling. They dream for us, but still they don’t expect anything in return. Even if we are bad, even if we have hurt or troubled them, they will always keep saying to themselves “My baby is the best baby”.

Sometimes we even go to the extent of blaming our parents for our failures saying, “My Parents didn’t allow me to do that, so I’m not successful”. We also do the terrible mistake of keeping a feeling within ourselves that our Parents are our obstacles. This is 250% wrong. If you aren’t successful, then, you are the cause of it and not some one else. Our success is only in our hands. What kind of children are we? We always want to enjoy our lives first. How much of responsibilities do we have? The number of responsibilities that we have is definitely not as much as our Parents have. Our responsibility is to take care of them in their old age and give them a good life as they are doing for us now. Our responsibility is to utilize whatever resources they have provided for us, and hit a level of life one day, that will bring tears to our Parent’s eyes. There will be no other moment as precious as the moment when your Mother and your Father have tears in their eyes when you have done extremely well in your life, let it be your personal life or your professional life. And that’s it!!! This is the only responsibility we have.

Is it that difficult compared to what our Parents do for us? The bottom line is only that, we need not wait for any miracle to happen by itself. Nothing can happen on its own. Something should be triggered to make it happen. Life cannot change within 1 hour, 2 hours or 24 hours or 6 months, a year or five years. Life changes…… in one second.

Monday, September 21, 2009

My First Love .....

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Monday, September 21, 2009 8 comments
Dear Friends,

I've been writing a lot in every article of mine. I've still got loads to tell you. But this time it is not through words that I'm going to convey my message to you.

They say images and pictures speak more than words. I would love to spread to the world something that is extremely close to my heart. My first love, my talent. And obviously you can see what I'm talking about. Yes my Friends, this is what I am. I'm not going to describe these sketches because I want to you all to see only the sketches and nothing else around it. You can assume anything you want, these pictures have more than one meaning.....

This is not the end of it. What is shown above is just a small trailer of my work. If you wish to see the full picture, do pay a visit to my home ;D

Love You All..... :D

Friday, September 18, 2009

Relations don’t fail; it’s the people who do

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Friday, September 18, 2009 1 comments
Every living thing has its relationship with some thing or someone. Every species has a feeling and thinking. Even the tiny ants have a capacity to think, feel and sense. A pet animal has a very intimate relationship with his/her owner. Among all the kinds of relationships that exist in this world, the human relationship is the closest one to all of us. It is the source for everything in this world. Nothing good is possible without an existing human relation. No human can survive in this world without making a single human relation.

This journey of relation building starts right from the moment a human being is born. The first relation that ever builds is the Mother-Child relationship. After which everything else follows. We ourselves are the makers of a relationship. It is only and only in our hands. Note that I said only “makers of a relationship”. If this is the case then why do most relations fail? The answer is that, relations don’t fail, but it is the people who fail. Let it be a parent-child relationship, a relationship between two friends, a relation between two siblings, a relation between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law ;-D, a relation between a husband and a wife or any other relation, it is only the people who matter.

The way the relationship is carried out is solely dependent on the people involved in it. If a relation fails, then it is the people who make it happen. No God should be blamed for any kind of failure. But it is this blaming nature in all of us that leads us to problems. We never accept our mistakes most of the times, be it small or big.

The biggest mistake we do with a mistake is,

1. We deny it
2. Ignore the mistake
3. Blame it on some body else.

Why do we fail to accept our mistakes? The answer is this worst problem called as EGO problem (Eliminating Growth Opportunities). Most of the times, our ego is the only cause for us to fail in relations. I call ego as a fast poison. If this is prevalent among us then it is hard to make a healthy relation. No doubt, arguments do take place between two friends, between parents and children, between siblings, between a husband and wife. But most of us make yet another mistake of trying to defeat the other person in the argument. We tend to compete with our own beloved ones. It is very true that one person has every right to prove that he is right in an argument. (If he/she is genuinely right) But it should not lead to hurting the other person’s feelings. Arguments need not be done by raising the voice and shouting and screaming out aloud, or throwing things away or on each other. It could also be done by keeping oneself calm and cool, with a charming smile on the face and talking with a polite voice. It might be difficult to smile and talk politely when we are arguing. Some of you may even think that, “Pratiba has gone crazy to write things like these.” But I have an answer even for this. It is difficult to smile when we are arguing, why? The answer is ANGER.

Anger is yet again another fast poison. I call it the child of EGO problem. Whenever our ego gets hurt, anger is triggered. But the difference between anger and ego is that, ego can’t be easily noticed, but anger is noticeable just by the actions and expressions of a person. In this context I would love to quote one of my favorite sayings about anger. It goes like this, “When anger rises, think of the consequences.” But the flaw in most of us is that, we never think when we are angry. The saddest part of this is that many friends, families and married couples have messed up their lives by not thinking about the consequences if at all they start a fight. It is normal if a fight or an argument takes place, but we should make it a point to settle the argument without hurting each other, at least by asking forgiveness or by a small hug. After all they are our beloved ones. I have seen in my own eyes that in the most pathetic way some people have failed in their relations and this makes me very sad too. I only pray that they have learn t from their mistakes and never repeat it henceforth.

Always remember that the more we are rude to somebody, the more our conscience gets hurt. If our conscience is hurt then our inner soul gets hurt. If our inner soul gets hurt then we will never give out our hearts to perform any duty. If this happens we will be all the more unhappy and frustrated. Hence the source of every failure in relations is ANGER, and the source of anger is the EGO problem. I think and I hope you have realized the message I’m trying to reveal. If you have ever hurt anybody, go and ask for forgiveness right now!!! You won’t lose anything. You won’t lose all your wealth. You won’t shrink to a smaller size. You only will gain an awesome feeling after you have done it. I repeat; do it right now!!!

Sunday, September 13, 2009

It's important to feel good ( ( ( (((GOOD))) ) ) )

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, September 13, 2009 8 comments
I request you to read this blog when you are free and in a relaxed mood. If you are in a hurry now, please don’t read it. It’s a humble request.

Many a times I’ve fallen into situations where I had to pay a lot for bringing negative thoughts in my mind. I could never figure out why this used to happen. The moment I doubt at something at a subconscious level it’s over. (Subconscious is the part of the mind which a human being is not fully aware of) I would have losses and only losses. Whichever thing I didn’t want to happen, it would happen without any delay. I used to think it is all the game of destiny. I thought that I don’t have any control on whatever is happening around me. I simply used to accept whatever came on my way. I used to even have the thought that may be God doesn’t like me.

But I was wrong :o. Few months back I got introduced to a new concept. At first I wondered “What is this? Is it a joke?” In fact I was very frightened when I came to know of it. I didn’t fully rule out the concept. But it was difficult for me to digest it at the first instance itself. Slowly I got accustomed to it and then came to know why things went bad for me at times. What I’m referring to is nothing but “Law of Attraction”. I don’t know how many of you know about this. Well, I came to know this exactly six months back. You can just type in these three words in Google. Don’t be surprised by the number of pages it displays. It is something that existed from the time when the universe was ready.

I want you to see this video before proceeding any further. Please be honest to yourself. See this video and then only read the next paragraphs. Don’t proceed reading this further without seeing the video.

Click Here For Video

If you have seen the Shahrukh Khan movie “Om Shanthi Om”, then I guess you even remember the famous one liner that Shahrukh keeps repeating throughout. “Agar kisi chiz ko dil se chaho to puri kaynath usko tumse milane ki koshish main lag jaati hai.” This is exactly what is called as “Law of Attraction”.

If you feel and love something wholeheartedly, if you want to have a successful personal life, successful professional life, or if you have goals to achieve, let it be anything, then the entire universe will correspond to your feelings. In simple terms, it only asks you to think positively about what you want. You will get your target provided you set your target “WHOLEHEARTEDLY”. We have heard several people around us say “Think Positive”, “Be Positive”, “Think Optimistically”, etc. But how many of us follow this? We don’t even know whether the people who tell us this follow it or not. All these phrases are nothing but Law of Attraction only.

Whether you believe it or not, whether you laugh at it, whether you take it lightly, whether you forget it, whether you follow it, it doesn’t care. It will keep working. Even when you are out of this world one day, it won’t stop! This law is a universal law. It is a continuous process. There is no stop button to it.

Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions. -Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

"All that we are is a result of what we have thought" – Buddha

Focus on being grateful for what you have already .. enjoy it!! Then
release into the universe. The universe will manifest it.

People think about what they don't want and attract
more of the same.

Are your thoughts worthy of you? If not - NOW is the time to change
them. You can begin right were you are right now. Nothing matters but
this moment and what you are focusing your attention on.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

A smile on a sad face looks marvelous!!

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Saturday, September 12, 2009 2 comments

Smile:). It’s a jewel that anybody can wear, anybody. No matter how rich or poor they are or how good or bad they are. It doesn’t have any price attached to it. It is a freely available gift to anybody who is sitting near you.

Personally if you ask me I love “not to” gift anybody anything that is purchased from a shop as a ready made material. It is the worth of your relationship that is more important than a ready made gift. I know I know, you may feel a little awful when I’m saying this because most of us go for ready made stuff right? I would say, if there is any occasion wherein you have to give a gift to your friend, or parents or your brother-sister, just try making something out of the love you have got for your friend, parents and your dear ones. You will see the difference when you actually do this. Your gift need not be something fancy; I mean that you can do something else like prepare some good savory for your parents. In case of friends you can always gift them your time. That’s why they say “Time is precious”. People who are close to you and who genuinely love you and care for will not expect any “material things” from you. If they do, then, you should know what to do. (I ask forgiveness from people who own businesses dealing with gifts. I've no intentions of ruining your business. :) )

When it comes to giving a smile, I think one should closely concentrate on this because many of us, including myself, forget to smile at times. Sometimes we even get stingy to smile. A smile on a sad face looks marvelous!! Even if you are not good looking, or if you have broken teeth, don’t bother, genuine people will still love you and your smile:) Smile is the best gift that can be given to anybody. You can gift a smile even to old people. They really feel happy. It could be your grandparents or even probably when you travel in a bus or train etc, you could smile at an old person sitting beside you. Remember, they are more experienced than the youngsters like you and me. They have faced and seen things. Never take them for granted. Oh!! How could I forget? Even babies and children love your smiles. Most of them smile at you back. Even babies don’t stop smiling when they are happy. (It’s a different thing when they cry) There are many more things that we can learn from children. It is a rare moment when you smile at somebody and that somebody smiles at you back. For a moment you will have a kind of joy that is unusual. Imagine you keep continuing this. You will love the entire day. The tactic of smiling has saved many people from getting firing from bosses also. So another major advantage there also.

You have the full freedom to be ever smiling when you are all alone. It is also said that “If you smile when you are alone, it means that the reason behind the smile is genuinely real!!” (The quote goes something like this. Can’t remember where I saw it.) Right now as I am typing this, I am smiling. This is a blog on smile, so I have to smile. It’s a great feeling. You can try this too. Of course, smile at the right time. Unnecessarily smiling at things won’t match with the situation.

You will enjoy the benefits when you start smiling.  “A smile confuses an approaching frown. --Author unknown”. Quote taken from:

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Destiny bows its head when you start writing

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Saturday, September 05, 2009 4 comments
Never had I imagined that I had the ability to write unless I had accidentally done it. It so happened that I just shared a thought of mine in one of the websites of an organization. Shockingly it was appreciated. One of my very close friends and a critic of mine Rheana John suggested me to start a blog and lo…. it is here!!! What if I hadn’t taken an initiative to write at all?

I think we all have this ability in us. It just requires one to convert the thought directly into a sentence. There is no need to make it look very complicated by using a high level English. You can also write it in your own regional language. All you have to do is convert the thought into words which you will have to arrange in an order that will look like a beautiful necklace.

It so happens many a times in our life that the level of our frustration goes high and our patience goes low. At such a point of time some of us seek the company of our friends, some others seek the company of parents, and still some of them seek the company of God in holy places just to calm down the mind, some others have a beautiful habit of writing down in diaries.

I write it down in my diary too. This diary of mine is open to the entire world. Anybody can see it. :D What you are seeing right now is my diary. I have so much of attachment with this blog that it has become my best friend now. If I have to share something my blog comes to know it first before anybody else does. I don’t know how many of you understand it. It may seem a little awful. (For some) You can say I’ve got addicted to blogging. (In a positive way)

Once the mind knows that the thoughts are conveyed to someone close to the heart a wave of calmness passes through the mind. If, you write your thoughts somewhere (may be a diary), it no longer remains a thought. It gets converted to a fact or a truth. You keep reading through it again and again and this will make the thought stronger and stronger. Once the thought becomes stronger you will be forced to act according to your thought. Once you start acting as your thoughts you are automatically creating a destiny for yourself. The point here is that we all depend on the lines on our palms to know what our destiny is. Many a times I’ve come across people saying, “I don’t have any tension I have wealth written on my hands”. I only want to tell them one thing that, “A person who doesn’t have hands also has a bright destiny!! How will that person see his/her future?” Isn’t it right somehow? If babies don’t attempt to walk, they will forever remain crawling. If people don’t work towards their goals they will remain far behind.

I’m not saying that everyone should start writing blogs, poems etc... etc… But at least one should write down stuff in a personal diary. It has a genuine impact on the destiny. This is what I believe and I wish everybody believes…….

♠♠♠ “Keep a diary, and someday it'll keep you.” -- Mae West
♠♠♠ “I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.” -- Oscar Wilde

Friday, September 4, 2009

Volcanoes and Opportunities erupt at any time

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Friday, September 04, 2009 0 comments
“Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.” —Stephen Covey

I came across this little one liner while browsing through the Internet and immediately, in a fraction of a second, I decided that my next blog shall be based on “Embracing Opportunities”.

It has been a wonderful journey for me, till now, as a kid, as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend, as an artist and of course as a student. Every day the main aspect that I look out for is “opportunity”. This habit of mine has helped me out many a times and gifted me some moments that I always dream t of. Thanks to my Father, from whom I inherited this habit. Whenever I felt that the chance that I have in my hand is worth exploiting, I never looked back.

It’s always said any opportunity, whether big or small has to be always welcome. There’s a favorite saying of mine from Shiv Khera’s “You can win”, “Opportunities are easier recognized when they are leaving rather than they are coming”. So true it is. We can’t afford to complain about flaws of any beautiful chance that comes on our way that will be for our benefit. Yet we do it. Complaining has naturally always been a favorite activity of all human beings. Looking at the benefits of an opportunity is a Winner’s perception, whereas looking at the negatives of an opportunity is a Loser’s perception. People even go to the extent of seeing the risks involved, although, the risks are not very crucial ones as the one that I will be mentioning now. Winners always see the positive side of everything. But every loser can get himself/herself converted to a winner. It just requires a “little” bit of thinking, introspection and a replacement of “Los” with “Winn” (Loser – Winner)

I would say life is also an opportunity. Agree? There will be both negative aspects as well as positive aspects. Agree? We won’t mind taking the positive aspects, but we are surely frightened of the negative aspects. We don’t even know when we are going to leave this world. It may happen at any time, a year later, a month later, a week later, a minute later, or a second later. It’s not even guaranteed for how long we are going to live. It is so ridiculous. Still we live our life, right? My question is, isn’t this a biggest risk of all? Do we ever sit quietly at home just because we can die at any time?

If this is not a risk then the problems that come with opportunity is 250% NOT A RISK at all! In fact “Every problem comes with another opportunity”, which means take an opportunity and get more opportunities for free :) This is essential, since all you Winners out there will have dreams of your own. Let it be any dream, may be getting a good job, setting up a business, owning a company, having a good family life, or anything else, I’m sure if you keep your eyes open, I guess you will find something shining from somewhere around the corner.

The bottom line is nothing, but, to be alert!! A volcano can erupt at anytime or an earthquake can happen in any place.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Don't care if people stare at you

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, August 30, 2009 3 comments
"Don't give a damn care whether people stare at you or not, because if you are a celebrity I think they should see you." -Er. Sujit Lalwani Sir

This is the best line that has been quoted by Er. Sujit Lalwani Sir when it comes to talking about the ever dangerous disease i.e. “What will they think about me?” According to me this disease is much more dangerous than the AIDS, cancer, tuberculosis or I can mention even the swine flu… ;-). Most of us have this problem which probably will be unknowingly the biggest reason why we don’t succeed in what we want to actually achieve in life. This applies to me also. Even I face this problem quite a number of times. I haven’t got over this so called “disease” but yes, I am working on it.

Oh my God it’s been a very tough thing to overcome. I was a person who used look left-right-up-down-front-back whenever I was supposed to do something different. I used to always worry “What will people around me think about me?” Such an over cautious girl I was!! Thank God I realized that being over conscious or over cautious brings disaster in life…: D very soon in my earlier days itself. I feel bad that I didn’t realize this still earlier than this.

The point here is that when people make fun of us or people pull our legs we feel very bad. Isn’t it? It hurts us a lot. Somewhere in our hearts we feel a pressure that takes time to come back to normal. But I would say that when people pull our legs, it should be happiest moment of our life. Want to know why? That’s because people who pull our legs are the people who are on our feet. Look where they stand and where we stand. We only have to say to them, “God bless you.”

I can see it in my college itself. The student wants to study. But he/she doesn’t open the book because he/she is worried that his/her friends or classmates will make fun. I would say, at the most those friends will tag the studying boy/girl as a nerd. At the most they will go and say it to everybody in their class. At the most the entire college will come to know that he/she is a nerd. At the most, nothing serious can happen to that boy/girl. It always depends on the way we take the insults. It’s only by the stones thrown at us that we can build walls which will guard us for a life time.

I haven’t mastered over this concept. As I’ve already mentioned that I’m still working on it. I’m writing this only for myself, because I get motivated when I motivate others. This will make me stronger than the person who I was yesterday.

Friday, August 7, 2009

Why can't we think like BABIES?

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Friday, August 07, 2009 2 comments

Kids, children and babies... who doesn't love these guys? They make our days.... For me they are my lucky charms. The moment I see an infant I feel that my day is going to be really splendid... and it does…!!
But why are they loved so much? You may say they are innocent. True!!! They are. But what else? I'll tell you..... They don't know jealousy. They don't know to pull other's legs. They don't know how to be cunning. They don't know how to harm others. They are the happiest human beings. They are ever smiling. They are always busy doing some activity. They will go by their conscience.

They DO WHAT THEIR HEART TELLS THEM TO DO. If discouraged from doing so, they start their sirens and alarms by crying, which means they want to still go by what their heart says even if somebody discourages them.

What do we do if we want to try something new and somebody else pulls our legs, discourages us? We back off. We give up then and there. (There are some really strong people who would go by their heart. But let us keep them as exceptions for now.) Agree with me? It is very easy to influence others and still easier to get influenced by others. Leg pulling is common everywhere these days. In high schools, colleges, workplaces etc. We all are bound to be slaves of the negative side of our mind. So it always is a problem to arrive at a proper decision as to whether to do it or not. Mark my words, If the decision is yours and it is helpful to you and if it is morally and legally right then go for it. Don’t think anything more than that.

Oh common isn't it your life after all? Any decision made in your life should be made straight from the heart. (Provided you don't end up doing things that harm others.)

But you may ask me what if your near and dear ones don’t support your decision? I would say, start showing them that you are mature enough to think on your own. Prove them that you are capable of handling responsibilities. Let them see the sparks that come out from you. Take up some initiatives that require a lot of responsibilities. I'm speaking from the point of view of people who still depend on others for making decisions.
Friends you all are grown ups. Come out of your childhood habits. Start thinking independently.

This may contradict the heading above that "Why don't we start thinking like babies?" Here comes the point. Our attitude matters what come may. Building attitudes like children will help us a lot. We will be loved by all if this happens. We will win people's trust also. So friends I would say, keenly observe the habits of the kids around you. We have lots to learn from them......

Sunday, August 2, 2009

My First Blog..!!!!

Posted by Pratiba Bhat at Sunday, August 02, 2009 0 comments

I was feeling very low when things didn't happen as I wanted it to be. I really was frustrated. A thought just strikes to me. I didn't want to forget this thought because it really motivated me when I dug deeper into it. I wanted to write this down somewhere and I felt, why not share it with you through a blog.

The thought went like this……

Just imagine you are not a very good cook. But still you tried preparing something. You tasted it and felt that it actually is really good. It tastes more or less the same as the one you had eaten in your favorite restaurant. You share it with your friends and family too. What happens? Everybody says that it’s horrible. They start criticizing you. Your Mom may even scold you for wasting so many ingredients on it.

Some of us might have faced this situation. Not necessarily while cooking, but, may be while you are trying to make somebody happy and something opposite happens. I know some of us will not take it to our hearts or we may not become that serious. But a small spark of sadness might have come to you for at least one second.

The same things happen to God also. You believe, I believe, the entire world believes that God created all of us. When we criticize ourselves, aren’t we criticizing God’s creation? God feels a little bad. I’m not claiming that criticizing yourself is very bad. We have to accept our weaknesses. But the point is, don’t criticize or underestimate yourself when you are really good. Once you hurt God, He will not listen to your prayers until you apologize and promise him that you won’t do it again.

I know this may sound very child like. But just think friends, why do our days go bad when we complain about ourselves or our surroundings? Isn’t it because we are attracting more of negativity while complaining? Hold your thoughts for a while and check what you are thinking. Recall the ways in which you have attracted problems only because of negative thinking.

Friends I would say “FEEL GOOD WHEN THINGS GO WRONG ALSO”. I know this sounds foolish. How can a person stay happy when things go wrong? The answer is that it comes only by practicing. I used to struggle a lot initially. Now, slowly I am getting a hang of it. It's results are visible to me. And I don't need to prove it to people. Trust me my friends. The problem is that we do not try different things, and that's why we miss out gaining certain wonderful moments which we always deserve. This may still sound foolish to some, but I would love to conclude by the saying of an amazing personality who life is a perfect example for everybody out there.

As said by Mr. Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple ( See videos on the side bar ) "STAY HUNGRY STAY FOOLISH....!!!"

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